I’m going to just place this on the market: I wouldn’t exactly be a hot commodity to Koreans if I were single in Korea. Even though this is merely a concept of mine, i do believe We have seen Korean partners sufficient in the past 4-5 months to feel like it is true. Here’s why…
Korean ladies are seen by Korean males as porcelain dolls- pretty, fragile, slim, soft, nutritious, virtuous, and skinned that is extremely fair.
You will always find that the man has when you see couples in public here
their hands round the girl, is holding her bag, their shopping bags, and all sorts of the whilst she actually is stiletto that is wearing (i really could compose a complete post on Koreans putting on stilettos at all times during the time, while sightseeing, and even though putting on sweat pants, but i shall save yourself that for the next time). a teacher that is korean of told us that the males right here definitely want to dote to their girlfriends. They constantly carry the woman’s bag and they are making real connection with them in some manner all the time. Our instructor additionally told us that Korean ladies whine great deal, and therefore their boyfriends think it is cute… actually, women? Actually?!
We will admit that whenever We see those kinds of couples whenever I’m back in the usa, I roll my eyes. Right right right Here, nonetheless, it is more widespread to see. In reality, it’s normal for partners to wear… brace yourself… matching clothes. I’m maybe perhaps not speaing frankly about a vow ring or matching bracelets, I’m dealing with matching black colored and PLAID that is yellow, or matching rugby shirts with matching shorts. (Jason and I really play a game title according to this event ( many many many thanks Britt!); each and every time we come across a matching couple, we must end up being the very very first someone to say “same-sies” therefore we arrive at strike the loser).
With myself as to why this may be the case in Korea although it’s difficult at times, I don’t like to judge other people based on what I may consider tacky, so I have attempted to reason:
- Korean moms and dads are notoriously strict with regards to their childrens’ partners. Arranged marriages still happen right right here too, which states great deal in regards to the tradition by itself. I’m able to only suppose secret dating is common right right here, and therefore when the partners are call at general general public it could be the only time that they may be together. Hence, they’ve been as affectionate towards one another if they had the chance as they would be in private. Once more, this might be a concept based entirely back at my findings, plus in no method fact.
- Due to the fact that ladies in Korea are incredibly slim, fragile-looking, and just simply take pride in searching pretty all the time (and therefore are constantly putting on 4-inch heels) in my opinion that this produces an extremely feminine and delicate image of females; a
graphic which makes the person desire to nurture and look after the girl who can’t raise 15 pounds. Therefore, they enjoy holding their shopping bags along with other things that are heavy. - A few our buddies right right here in Korea, whom instruct English and now have Korean buddies, additionally told us another interesting relationship powerful that we thought had been actually intense. Whenever a lady is in a relationship, she will not speak with virtually any dudes, at all. Evidently it really is a indication of respect to her boyfriend (whom appears become extremely overly and insecure jealous) and also this means she can’t even keep in touch with her guy friends anymore. I still have yet to ensure this with any Koreans myself, but it is interesting that when We heard I started noticing that couples are never with anyone else about it. These are typically either alone, which will be almost all for the couples we see, or they truly are possibly with another few. Possibly this might additionally assist explain why relationships look therefore different right here.
We’ve heard off their Koreans and foreigners that having a boyfriend or gf isn’t as prevalent as it is right straight back in the usa.
That I have been noting in my head since the moment we arrived here like I mentioned earlier, these are just my thoughts that stem from a few observations. We find these social points become fascinating and We additionally love individuals viewing and I also have always been quite good if I may say so, which makes me a great researcher for this type of subject at it. Certainly One of my favorite quotes comes from an episode from Intercourse as well as the City: “Some people do arts and crafts. We judge.” Perhaps perhaps Not that we judge individuals, but we report the things I see and hear. Just sayin’.